Relationships & Compatibility (Kua 1–9)
Align living, sleeping, and conversation angles for harmony. Use your Kua to reduce friction, build trust, and create predictable peace at home and in partnerships.
Quick Index
East vs West Life Groups
East Group
Kua 1, 3, 4, 9
These typically pair smoothly with each other. Use 8 Mansions to pick shared seating and sleep directions.
West Group
Kua 2, 6, 7, 8
Also pair smoothly within the group. If your partner sits in the opposite group, see solutions below.
If your result is 5: use 2 (male) or 8 (female) for all practical tactics.
Compatibility Map (Fast)
Smooth
Manageable
High Friction
East Group with East Group
- 1 ↔ 3/4/9 Smooth — easy alignment with shared facing choices.
- 3 ↔ 4 Smooth — growth + connection; direct + diplomatic styles complement.
- 3/4 ↔ 9 Manageable — vision vs speed; align routines to avoid burnout.
West Group with West Group
- 2 ↔ 6 Smooth — stability + standards; great for household order.
- 6 ↔ 7 Manageable — structure vs persuasion; set boundaries on shortcuts.
- 7 ↔ 8 Smooth — monetization meets preservation; invest with rules.
- 2 ↔ 8 Smooth — routines + study; calm growth.
Across Groups (East ↔ West)
Different preferred directions and tempos. Treat this as a design problem, not a personality flaw. See Opposite Groups for a practical plan.
Opposite Groups: What To Do
1) Anchor the Bed, Compromise the Desk
- Prioritize Tian Yi for the person with health sensitivity or current recovery needs.
- Let the other partner take Sheng Qi for the desk or primary facing.
2) Split Zones by Function
- Dining / conversations: choose Yan Nian for the partner who mediates more.
- Study / focus: assign Fu Wei to the partner who needs deep work.
3) Rotate Facing by Time
- Morning routines: favor the partner with heavier morning workload.
- Evenings: switch to the other partner’s favorable facing (chair angle or seat swap).
4) Use Furniture Micro-adjustments
- Swivel chairs 10–15° to point closer to each one’s favorable sector.
- Place a side table or lamp in a partner’s favorable sector to stabilize their field.
5) Door & Movement Lines
- Route daily movement through one partner’s Sheng Qi.
- Hold family discussions in the other partner’s Yan Nian zone.
6) Non-Negotiables
- Avoid placing anyone’s bed headboard in Jue Ming or Wu Gui.
- Keep stoves away from Wu Gui and Jue Ming.
Map your exact sectors from the Kua Calculator, then place bed, desk, and key activities via 8 Mansions.
Kua 1 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Conversations in your Yan Nian; schedule walks facing your favorable sector.
- Conflict control: Sit in Fu Wei to lower intensity; write before arguing.
- Opposite partner: Offer structural clarity (agenda, time limits) to ease their comfort zone.
Kua 2 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Shared routines and meal times in Yan Nian.
- Conflict control: Avoid late-night debates; hold talks in your Fu Wei sector.
- Opposite partner: Allow limited experiments; negotiate boundaries, not the principle.
Kua 3 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Activities that spend energy (walks, gym) before serious talks.
- Conflict control: Face Fu Wei first to blunt impulsive reactions.
- Opposite partner: Slow the tempo; present steps, not just outcomes.
Kua 4 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Coffee chats or learning together in Yan Nian.
- Conflict control: Decide a time limit; end with a written action list.
- Opposite partner: Protect focus windows; batch communications.
Kua 5 — Relationship Tactics
Kua 6 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Rituals that show reliability (weekly planning in Yan Nian).
- Conflict control: Avoid legalistic tone; sit in Fu Wei to soften delivery.
- Opposite partner: Offer fewer, clearer options; avoid overwhelming with structure.
Kua 7 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Light social time before serious topics; keep phones away.
- Conflict control: Do not sell; clarify trade-offs and timelines in Fu Wei.
- Opposite partner: Commit in writing; follow through to maintain trust.
Kua 8 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Quiet tasks together (reading, chores) in Yan Nian.
- Conflict control: Timebox decisions; avoid indefinite analysis.
- Opposite partner: Offer stable routines; allow occasional spontaneity.
Kua 9 — Relationship Tactics
- Bonding: Shared vision rituals (weekly goals) in Yan Nian.
- Conflict control: Reduce spotlight; talk while walking to drain heat.
- Opposite partner: Translate ideas into steps; show how it stabilizes the home.
